What happens when your message gets a knock back? That’s not how it is...That’s not me!
I have on occasion found myself in a tangle trying to make a particularly strong message fit the clients circumstances. Once upon a time I would deliver the message a couple of different ways before questioning the client about whether they can make it fit into their narrative.
Why does the message feel so right but cannot be taken by your client?
You could be trying to interpret as well as deliver the message. The message becomes garbled when we put our spin on the words.This happens when we feel responsible for the emotional effect the message will have on the client. We feel the emotion when reader and client are connected and it can be difficult to step back from the problem solving part of ourselves. This is especially taxing on the mind body emotional wellbeing of the practitioner. For tips on how to navigate this CLICK HERE
You could be trying to interpret the message and deliver something you are connecting to your own life and inadvertently giving advice based on your needs rather than the client finding their own solutions. Meditation practice helps here, acceptance and surrender to your own healing process. Join Meditation Circle Here
You could be delivering the message perfectly but the client does not have the self awareness that this is the answer they’ve been seeking. A person will sometimes come for a reading because their own intuition is shut down. This situation means the client will miss many messages in the moment of the reading but down the track it will all fall into place. It is this point I want to expand on...
It is important to recognise that a client has come to you specifically to hear the message you have to give. Do not worry whether it makes sense to you or your client in the moment. It is great to check in for validation, do that often (yes or no validation only), but the client may be in distress, trauma or just not ready to act on the words. This is no fault of the reader, the message or the client. This means the message has been delivered on a soul level, it is embedded in the subconscious to be retrieved at the appropriate time. This is why I continue to stress the need to just deliver the message and don’t seek approval outside of your own intuitive self.
How to manage the sticky bits....
If a client cannot own the message it is best to move to the next point. More often than not the penny drops a bit later and it all makes sense when something is remembered.
Sometimes clients are very literal and messages do not come with guarantees. It is not the readers job to problem solve for the client. It’s ok to state this point - I remind clients messages are interpretive and not an exact science.
Sometimes we are just blocked and saying stuff that fills a gap. Don’t be that reader, be ethical. If it is a block or you are getting nothing for the client it is best to be honest and say so. Often a client will be asking about a lousy work environment when their immediate issue is actually a personal relationship, or vice versa. Take a breath and tune in, the message is there, even if the client insists that’s not what they want to hear right now. You are reading and delivering soul messages, neither of you get to dictate the order or the content.
These are just some examples of cause and effect. I have had clients get angry and come back months later and tell me I was correct. I’ve had clients walk away cranky because the focus was not what they were expecting only to have them return later and admit the message in the moment was perfect. I’ve delivered messages and tried to work it out for the client with a resounding “NO” only to have them tell me a story about themselves at the end of the reading that exactly fits the message I was trying to relay (this is frustrating).
At the end of the day you are fulfilling your soul purpose, connecting with spirit, with soul and delivering the message the client needs to heal and live their best lives. It’s best to learn not to dwell on these challenging times, you will start to tell yourself you can’t do this. You are a reader and if you find contentment in practicing readings then it would be a shame to use this to punish yourself. Me, I sit with my thoughts and put them gently into my heart. I always find understanding and release. In this space I know all is well and this is not about me, it is about expressing my spirit self through readings and feeling at peace with the Universe.
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