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 What happens when your message gets a knock back? That’s not how it is...That’s not me!
**crickets** I have on occasion found myself in a tangle trying to make a particularly strong message fit the clients circumstances. Once upon a time I would deliver the message a couple of different ways before questioning the client about whether they can make it fit into their narrative. Why does the message feel so right but cannot be taken by your client? You could be trying to interpret as well as deliver the message. The message becomes garbled when we put our spin on the words.This happens when we feel responsible for the emotional effect the message will have on the client. We feel the emotion when reader and client are connected and it can be difficult to step back from the problem solving part of ourselves. This is especially taxing on the mind body emotional wellbeing of the practitioner. For tips on how to navigate this CLICK HERE You could be trying to interpret the message and deliver something you are connecting to your own life and inadvertently giving advice based on your needs rather than the client finding their own solutions. Meditation practice helps here, acceptance and surrender to your own healing process. Join Meditation Circle Here You could be delivering the message perfectly but the client does not have the self awareness that this is the answer they’ve been seeking. A person will sometimes come for a reading because their own intuition is shut down. This situation means the client will miss many messages in the moment of the reading but down the track it will all fall into place. It is this point I want to expand on... It is important to recognise that a client has come to you specifically to hear the message you have to give. Do not worry whether it makes sense to you or your client in the moment. It is great to check in for validation, do that often (yes or no validation only), but the client may be in distress, trauma or just not ready to act on the words. This is no fault of the reader, the message or the client. This means the message has been delivered on a soul level, it is embedded in the subconscious to be retrieved at the appropriate time. This is why I continue to stress the need to just deliver the message and don’t seek approval outside of your own intuitive self. How to manage the sticky bits.... If a client cannot own the message it is best to move to the next point. More often than not the penny drops a bit later and it all makes sense when something is remembered. Sometimes clients are very literal and messages do not come with guarantees. It is not the readers job to problem solve for the client. It’s ok to state this point - I remind clients messages are interpretive and not an exact science. Sometimes we are just blocked and saying stuff that fills a gap. Don’t be that reader, be ethical. If it is a block or you are getting nothing for the client it is best to be honest and say so. Often a client will be asking about a lousy work environment when their immediate issue is actually a personal relationship, or vice versa. Take a breath and tune in, the message is there, even if the client insists that’s not what they want to hear right now. You are reading and delivering soul messages, neither of you get to dictate the order or the content. These are just some examples of cause and effect. I have had clients get angry and come back months later and tell me I was correct. I’ve had clients walk away cranky because the focus was not what they were expecting only to have them return later and admit the message in the moment was perfect. I’ve delivered messages and tried to work it out for the client with a resounding “NO” only to have them tell me a story about themselves at the end of the reading that exactly fits the message I was trying to relay (this is frustrating). At the end of the day you are fulfilling your soul purpose, connecting with spirit, with soul and delivering the message the client needs to heal and live their best lives. It’s best to learn not to dwell on these challenging times, you will start to tell yourself you can’t do this. You are a reader and if you find contentment in practicing readings then it would be a shame to use this to punish yourself. Me, I sit with my thoughts and put them gently into my heart. I always find understanding and release. In this space I know all is well and this is not about me, it is about expressing my spirit self through readings and feeling at peace with the Universe. With Love, Vicki xx Readings Tarot Reading School Tarot Practitioner Course Meditation Intuition Training Reiki Master The Modern Oracle Past Life Regression Therapy
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Reading someone else’s energy can be helpful or intrusive. To navigate this particular subject I am going to explore some circumstances where someone else other than the client will turn up in a reading. Here are some examples I have experienced over the years.
Heart connections. When someone is spiritually connected through their hearts the significant other people in their lives are accessible, and only the message the client is meant to receive. This is always a beautiful way to pass on comfort and bring peace to relationships. We always worry about our loved ones. This is a great way to confirm the heart connection is strong and working both ways because the information will not come through without the soul permission of the other person. No connections, no heart communication. I have had instances where I cannot give comfort around a relationship, no matter how strong it is, because there is no communication between the hearts. There are a couple of reasons for this. Either one or the other is in a healing cycle and they don’t have the extra energy to share, or there is an issue where they are holding something back from the other…they don’t want to share a hurt or secret. The client will often feel guilt that they have no extra energy to give others in their life. My job is to reassure them the connection is still strong and the introspection of either party is necessary for their personal growth. The connection is not lost, just latent and will cycle back when the healing is complete. Reading someone without their permission is not ethical. I am not talking about random psychic messages that just turn up. I mean going into someones energy deliberately to sticky beak into their thoughts and just because you can doesn’t mean you should. I’ve tried it before, with disastrous results. I end up feeling run down, depleted and psychically confused. When you receive an unsolicited psychic message about someone, what to do… Sometimes the recipient is not interested and sometimes it is none of our business to run up to them with this unsolicited message. I’ve done it myself and I’ve had it done to me. I find it intrusive and unwelcome. Information of a sensitive nature creates a power imbalance and common sense is required when deciding what and to whom do you pass on to. I’ve had information dreams about other people. I’ve had random messages about what has happened to someone else. The only experience I have not had is a unsolicited, precognitive message for another person. I get asked many times about what should be done with this message. My opinion is always this. If you trust the message and you know the person who the message is for is open to your delivery then go ahead and share. If the message is for someone you do not know very well then passing the message on will create fear. Be mindful where your ego is at play and that you are acting in everybody’s best interest. And finally trust…trust that if that person is meant to get any message their guides will know the best course of action. It is not always your sole responsibility. Be kind to yourself and know that just because you see it does not make it your responsibility. With love, Vicki xx Once, a long time ago, I realised I wanted to have my own Tarot school, train practitioners and then mentor them through the process by providing opportunities not available to me when I first started out. As has been with all of my dreams, by keeping them fresh and close to my heart, they eventually materialised.
Tarot Reading school is one of the incarnations of my vision. I see my mission is to break down any pre-conceived ideas and fears around readings that is holding back the reader from realising their own dream of becoming a confident, successful practitioner. While working with my students all sorts of questions and issues arise and while I was preparing this weeks lesson I was remembering all the times I was with a teacher or mentor and could not understand the language they used or the concept they were trying to teach me. I believe this struggle formed my reading style and my search for my truth. I want to share some of the things I found really frustrating and how I came to understand what that meant. “Don’t take on other peoples emotions, it is affecting you and you will one day feel someone’s heart attack and you will have a heart attack”. This actually happened, albeit a year after it was said to me. What I found difficult at the time was the expectation that I knew how to shut that down. I tried really hard because my emotions affected me so deeply and when I asked “how” I was never given anything sensible to put into practice. I was constantly feeling washed out. I nearly walked away from Tarot so many times. I always returned though, Tarot and spirituality is my life. The day after I experienced the heart attack the constant emotional fluctuations ceased of their own accord. Something within surrendered and I was able to continue. So what did I learn about this? I explored, through connection with my guides and, the spirit world, that this type of reaction is not out of my control, neither am I taking anybody’s emotions or experiences on. I am being triggered and the clients emotional state is connecting with my personal trauma. My Self Awareness work is the only prescription I have ever needed. Recognise and name my emotions. Do not give those emotional reactions a story. They will pass. This is simple, takes practice and it works. “Unless you protect yourself you will be attacked/taken over by malevolent/evil spirits” This was early on in my spiritual awakening. I was terrified of what would happen to me once I surrendered to the energy. I would see, feel and hear all sorts of things that I thought would get me. I practiced many rituals that made no impact on my fear or my power over this “negative energy.” I became easily manipulated by those around me who thought they were psychically superior to me because I thought they knew some big secret that I was not worthy enough to have. Know what….nothing bad ever happened. Lots of weird and interesting things happened (and that’s a story for another day) Now, I don’t profess to know everything and I have heard some very weird and upsetting supernatural accounts from other people over the years. I would never tell them that what they experienced is not real, it is real for them. Hell, it was real for me at the time. What I learned, again through communing with my own guidance and connecting with my own inner wisdom is that I am in control of all the interactions I have with Spirit and energy. Let that sink in...I AM IN TOTAL CONTROL. This is my truth... there is nothing evil in the world of Spirit. Spirit is pure unconditional love. I was the only person assigning good or bad to all the spirit interactions I had. I understand, deep in my soul, that I have control of that. I know this because I put this belief into practice it for myself and it works. As an aside here, the fear completely left me when I attended Arthur Findlay college in England. World class mediums and a great atmosphere to experience the Spirit world with experienced teachers. And finally, “You do not need to have lessons to be a good reader/healer. It comes naturally and those that go to class are wasting their time.” Now, to be fair, this was not one person telling me this, this was something that was assumed across the board with all the spiritualists I was hanging out with in the very early days. There was manipulation, holding back information, control using fear and, lots and lots of ego. I let my ego run rampant and I thought I was so “spiritual.” I would repeat all of the rubbish I’d read and heard as if I was an expert. One day someone told me something that stopped me in my tracks and helped shape the reader I am today. They told me “You are not believable because you are not living the things you are preaching!” I am paraphrasing that, it was a long time ago but that is what I remember hearing. It was actually someone who was jealous and trying to gaslight me but what they said struck a chord. I knew in that moment it was true. Instead of letting that statement defeat me I became determined to learn everything about “my truth.” I learned to step into integrity with my spiritual work. This led me was to eventually step away from that cohort. Once I lived my truth their behaviour was evident and it is one of those moments where you must separate yourself from something unhealthy to be able to thrive, and that is scary. Once I began attending workshops and courses with ethical people I was able to make informed decisions about different beliefs and experience true compassion, sitting with another truth without judgement. So here we are, back at the reason I wanted to teach practitioners. Why make this world so mysterious when it doesn’t have to be, it is open to all. Reading is fun and wonderful and life affirming and soul fulfilling. I am probably repeating myself but this work has literally pulled me back from the edge so many times. It is not just a business or a job. It is not a career or a vocation. It is not my soul path/journey. Psychic readings give me access to the world of Spirit and that is my whole life. If you have that knowing in the depths of your soul I would love to walk with you some of the way and demonstrate the unique reading or healing style you bring to the world, your unique signature. Tarot Practitioner Course Intuition Meditation Circle and coming soon, Reiki, Tarot For Self Development, Soul Coaching Circle. With love, Vicki xx Psychic Readings Tarot Reading School Tarot Practitioner Course Reiki Master Past Life Regression Therapy Soul Coaching  **Image from Hands Of Light by Barbara Brennan
Have you ever thought that you are making this up when you are doing a reading? You know you the message is pure but sometimes it slips in just like a thought. Was that me making it up? Or did I just connect psychically. Our Energy Auras hold all the answers, you just need to know where to look. 1.The Etheric Body - where physical information resides . Psychic readers and medical mediums will tune into the energy of the etheric aura, they do not diagnose. Physical trauma is held here and when a client is blocked this may be the initial reason why. Healers will use the Etheric Aura for initial assessments. 2.The Emotional Body is next and is not a great place to read from. Emotions cloud the readers judgement especially if there are unresolved issues. As a reader, if you are being triggered with your own emotional trauma you are reading from this body. 3. The Mental Body. Clients usually book a reading while they are trying to access Soul information from the mind. The mind is not a truth teller and will confuse any access to vital information. When reading from this aura you will identify the clients fears. I hear it as yelling in my head. Exposing the fear disperses the power of the lie. 4. The Astral Body holds the clients past present and future and is the best place to do a psychic reading. Here lies all the blocks, beliefs and patterns they are using to hold them back. It is also here that their immediate future is beginning to form. Be mindful, if their emotional and mental bodies have not cleared then no information will be available in the Astral body for the psychic. Accessing information from the higher bodies will give a bigger picture however your client may benefit from a healing before a clear reading can be provided. 5. The Etheric Template shows you your karmic blueprint. It is here that the body as “wholly formed” will be presented. A great place to access for healing. A reader will access the Karmic Contract for this lifetime here. 6. The Celestial body is where you communicate with guides and loved ones. This is where mediums will communicate with spirit. Sometimes a reader will confuse memory imprints front The Mental Body as a passed loved one. It is always best to study and practice your psychic and mediumship so you can recognise the difference. 7. The Ketheric template is where your Akashic information is held. Sometimes you can access it but you cannot pick when that is. When you do connect here there is very rarely a recall of information, just a deep sense of peace and healing. It is difficult to articulate the feelings from this connection. When I read I mostly connect with these three bodies, The Astral - past, present, future. The Mental - fears and blocks. The Celestial - Guides and Soul. And, while it is not so important to know where the message originates, it gives me, as a reader, a sense of calm while providing a clear effective message for my client. With love, Vicki xx Psychic readings Tarot readings Reiki Past Life Regression Meditation Tarot Reading School  Every once in a while I have an energy shift and it still gives me a measure of uncertainty while I incorporate the new way into my routine. Never is this more evident with my reading and healing style.
As readers our style evolves over the years. This is because of many factors such as confidence and incorporating new information learned. One thing I always laugh about, especially for myself, is what I call on-the-job-training. My style changes mid reading or healing, without much warning, and always for a specific purpose. I have long abandoned searching for the why of these changes. I trust now that the difference will benefit myself and I am happy to say it always go beyond anything I could have anticipated. I am experiencing this change right now so I thought I would explain my process so that it will provide some insights. The symptoms? We feel like readings are not quite right. Maybe we have lost the ability to give good readings. Or worse, blaming ourselves that we have done something wrong to lose our way. I mention these because I have felt them in one form or another along this journey of being a psychic reader. So, I let go of the fight to be right, go with the changes in energy, accept the difference it will make to my business and see what will happen. Every time my readings go to a stronger and deeper spiritual level, my business increases, my clients change and I feel a satisfaction with my work that I did not know was missing. One important experience I have with all these shifts is I do not know what the change will be. I’m laughing writing this because I am remembering all the times I bargained, meditated, prayed, went to my own healers and readers for information and getting nowhere. It is perfectly perfect to seek outside assistance and support. Do not expect answers, just the energy support you need while the shift takes place. That is why I offer Spiritual Coaching, as a support for you while you experience the shift. There are times where you receive a whole download of a new way of doing something. That is great when you can feel the greatness of the new way, the way it will be applied and how you play your part and that is so exciting. What we do not receive is the personal confidence that we can deliver it effectively. This is the gap I am talking about. That will never be filled by anyone else but you putting it into practice and seeing for yourself how it unfolds. This part is such a critical step to becoming an effective reader and healer. Without your energy added to the mix, to make it work for you, to alter it in a way that aligns with your own Soul, the new way will falter and be abandoned. A strong practitioner will often be tested this way. It is not a punishment but the most effective way to learn...and that brings us back to on-the-job-training. This is how it happens for me now.... I recognise there is a change in the way I do something, not just a one off, a regular change I watch the difference in my clients, are they responding to the change...(always a yes, whew!) Let the new way evolve through practice. **Give yourself a break here. Give yourself extra time with a client if need be. This is about you. Spirit is directing the change so you know it is going to be awesome. If necessary I change the modality description, times and prices accordingly. This is still my work and very much a part of the process. And I wait and watch. P.S. I you have a fear that it will all disappear because something is different don’t look at it as a negative. It is a sign that you are an ethical practitioner and always want what is best for yourself and your clients. Also, know that if it ever does dissolve then something even more amazing is due to come along. You know this because you live you life as a Spiritual being, walking your talk in every part of your life. Every aspect of you life is spiritually guided, not just the practitioner part. You are not meant to sacrifice your life to a life of service. You are here to live, your way. To be courageous enough to live your life your way is the most spiritual thing you could ever do!! With Love Vicki xx Tarot Tarot Reading School Crystal Reiki Past Life Regression Therapy Soul Coaching Meditation  Every once in a while a statement is declared to me that I must get really tired after doing readings. It always takes me by surprise because I have to stop and think... Is that true? The answer is both yes and no... When you are solely using your psychic ability to read for a client then you are tapping into your physical and mental reserves. This is draining. You are reading the clients aura, mind and micro expressions. You are controlling the narrative and the message. This generally comes from a lack of faith that the message is real and the need to interpret the message for the client as well. This type of reading is exhausting, possible, but exhausting. When you are using your psychic ability as well as communicating with the clients higher self and guides then the energy required to deliver messages is constantly being replenished. You are tapped into the greater Spirit energy and when you connect with this power you receive automatic healing, whether you ask for it or not (this is another reason why not many people like to meditate-learn more here). This is a great advantage as many readers and healers will attest, you give a reading/healing you get a reading/healing. Letting go the need to control the message is required. Whenever you begin a reading and connect to the Power of Spirit it is called attunement. Mediums use this to connect with loved ones and we all do this when we sit quietly in meditation and connect to our Soul. This attunement is both wonderful and confronting. The healing you receive from attunement demands you face yourself honestly. When you have been spending a lifetime hiding from your true self it takes great courage to turn towards the truth rather than run. True attunement healing is what we all do when we confront those dark corners of our psyche and bring them in to the light of day. We do this because we recognise that life will be better once this has been faced. We know what it feels like to turn our face to the light of the Spirit world and feel whole, so we do the work. The result of this practice is an endless stream of powerful energy that runs through us for ever. Once opened it cannot be closed down. The Soul has accepted the attunement. It is this energy the reading and healing practitioner draws on. It is this energy that boosts the client to receive the message they have come to hear and release the trauma they are ready to let go. At the end of a day of working with Spirit the body and mind is uplifted and energised. The tiredness we feel is a normal part of being in the world. Especially if you’ve been talking all day, then have to pick up dinner on the way home, connect with your family and do your own chores. We all know that part of the human experience!! So my friends, meditate, get out in nature, accept all the parts of you and strive for self awareness. It is not an easy path to begin with and many bumps and bruises along the way. I assure you there will come a time where you will welcome the process and life is filled with joy. With love, Vicki xx Psychic readings Tarot readings Tarot Reading School Tarot Practitioner Crystal Reiki Past Life Regression Soul Coaching Meditation or, I wish somebody had explained this to me when I started out... Since 1993 I have been reading and teaching the Tarot. The challenges I taught myself to overcome are now the strategies I cover in my Tarot Practitioner course. Here are my Top Ten: 1. I am not qualified Imposter syndrome! We are terrified someone is going to call us out. Recognise you are not the font of all knowledge and have a community of experts you can call on if necessary. 2. I am not experienced This is a big rabbit hole to go down. It is a self perpetuating block when you need experience to get experience. Regardless of time served the perfect client will come to the perfect practitioner to hear the perfect message. Give that message a voice, be brave. 3. I will say something wrong We have all said the wrong thing. That is a human thing to do. Listen to your client, they will let you know if you are off track. You client will only hear what they need or want to hear. The message is not for you so free your intuition and say whatever comes forth. 4. I had a bad experience once Bad experiences are relative and can be a delaying tactic driven by fear. The perfect practitioner will help you understand and override the mental block you are creating here. 5. I just have to heal one more thing The mind is powerful and drives our fear. This one pops up when we are feeling most vulnerable. Breathe into your Soul and remember the passion for your craft. The fear will subside. Repeat as many times as you need. 6. Where do I start When our creative mind is free to explore, it is overwhelming. Begin with the small wins and build from there. 7. Afraid of being judged Trolling is a very real thing in this digital age. Build your community slowly from your regular clients or people you trust before you make the big global leap. 8. Offering your service for free This can lead to burn out. I have so many reasons why this is not best practice that I cannot list them all here. Only do it for fun. 9. It’s all happening too fast We are so used the negative that when life is free flowing we hardly recognise it. Surrender to the flow because this is what you have worked so hard for. Your Soul will not let you drown. 10. I feel alone The end of any course can feel like you have been cast adrift. This is necessary until you find your confidence. Like The Hermit you must wander alone until the knowledge settles. Being comfortable in your aloneness is a necessary skill. With love, Vicki Haspels Tarot Reading School Psychic Readings Crystal Reiki Reiki Master Esoteric Coaching Meditation It is easy to forget that giving a reading is about delivering a message. Listen here to and explanation of how our natural inclination to help and "fix things" can send that message in a completely different direction. With Love,
Vicki xx Tarot Reading School Psychic Readings Reiki Crystals Past Life Regression Spiritual Coaching  This card has come up a lot this week with my clients and the online readings I’ve been doing as well. It has presented itself as many different meanings which I will share with you here. Here the ten of wands represents the overwhelm we feel when we realise how much responsibility we have taken on. This card has also represented that realisation that the burden of responsibility has crept up on us, that we have usually been able to handle this much work and that no longer works for us...we begin to look for an easier lifestyle. Lately this card has come to represent the shedding of our workload. This workload is not the burden it appears in the card, rather the sitter recognises that there are a number of issues or tasks to address and is ready to tackle them one at a time. It is the realisation that the sitter welcomes the responsibility and has the capability of taking care of it.
When the ten of wands appears to you it is time to take stock of your responsibilities, be mindful not to burn the candle at both ends, you may not have the energy you once had to take on all the jobs or that there is a change of lifestyle for you as you reprioritise your life choices...the life you’ve been leading doesn’t feel the same any more. With love, Vicki xx Psychic readings Past Life Regression Tarot Reading School Reiki Sometimes we are reluctant to give a reading because we are worried about what the sitter will think of us. In this short video I discuss how that impacts a reading. With Love,
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